What's My Relationship Language
Knowing your relationship language will help you save your marriage, improve communication, and strengthen your relationships.
How Can I Help?
and heal from past relationships.
Does Any of this Sound Like You?
My Relationship is Not Working
I’m not really sure what to do or how to fix it. I know something is wrong, I’m not sure what… I just need and want to fix it.
My Marriage is Failing and We Need Help Now
Things in our relationship aren’t good right now and are getting worse by the day.
I need a fix and I need it fast.
My Past Relationships are Holding Me Back
I invest a lot in my relationships so why does it always feel like I keep falling into the same old relationship traps? I need a lifeline.
Free Quizzes
The more you know yourself, the more you can understand what’s happening in your relationships. I’ve developed some free quizzes to help you. These are the three main things that help people determine what’s going on in their relationships…
the good and the bad.
5 Relationship Languages
Understanding the five relationship languages will help you solve relationship problems and gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others.
Discover your relationship language.
Fix Your Relationship
There are fifteen competencies, each having four areas of relationships to ourselves and others that are active.
Understand which relationship competencies you need to fix your relationship.
Heal Past Relationships
Heal the past to be your best in your current or future relationship.
Figure out what they did versus what you did to move forward from an emotional, mental, and spiritual perspective.
Dr. Dar
THE RELATIONSHIP FIXER (Ph.D.)
I kept being asked to serve the most difficult customers and save failing projects in my Corporate Career. I remember an executive saying ‘Give it to Darshana, she can fix it!”… then…
A kind man at a speaking engagement said “you’re going to think I am crazy… but I know you are the one to help me. My wife is packing her bags right now – I know you can help me save my marriage!”
I spent the weekend listening to each of them… unbiased and impartial, sharing things I could see that they could not, coaching them to resolve their complaints about how one is tired of doing everything at home and being the sole financial provider, and teaching them about their relationship languages to build new intimate connection.
They are still together today, happily, twenty two years later.
These are common habits that destroy marriages. They erode trust, connection, collaboration and even break down the deepest love. If you're in survival mode because you're spouse has these habits... it's time to ask for help and support to change it... Today. #drdar #relationshipfixer #fixmymarriage #stellarrelatonships #relationships101 #relationshipsmatter #marriage101 #marriageproblems
I'm thinking of creating π something... because time β³ is flying by β²... I need a smidge of structure, with a dabble of astrology and human design, using my focused energy, thoughts and feelings to create what I want π― in my life. I want to create π‘ my future... from the present. 1 hour/month to focus on one area of life. I'd love 3-5 women who are givers, people pleasers, peacekeepers, & helpers to play with me... it's more fun to cohort than go solo in creating a life and relationships you love. Who is interested? #drdar #designyourlife #relationshipfixer #behealed #manifesting #loveyourlife
The thing about relationships π« is they provide ample opportunity and instant feedback to learn, adapt, grow, be agile, and to learn about what love is and is not. You will know π if something you said or did, or they said or did landed the wrong way... because you receive feedback in the form of a facial expression, silence, or some other negative β reaction. But... when that happens, you, like me, will look at yourself first... 'what happened, what did I do wrong, what could I have done differently'... you're feeling me right?! As a self-improvement junkie, I too would analyze, toss it around, try to see it from different perspectives, and ... work myself into being healed.
So...
One of the things that makes me fantastic π at what I do to help couples fix their relationship is that I too have had failed relationships. Yep... the truth is, I've had many failed relationships - personal, professional, and romantic. I've learned the hard way... about what to do and what not to do to have a loving, reciprocal and lasting relationship. And, what to say and not to say.... how to hear and how not to assume or interpret what is being said or how it is being said. So.... I have incredible empathy, understanding, compassion and openness... I have 0 judgment about your situation, what got you there, how you think or feel about your spouse right now, how you're feeling, what's happening in your relationship, or what's not happening.... or anything else for that matter... I have either experienced something similar or have helped a couple with something similar too.
Either way, I'm here for you!
Relationships are an art π¨ form that you too can master. Let me help.
#drdar #relationshipfixer #howtosayit #relationshipsmatter #saveyourmarriage
What's a relationship fact about your past that gave you valuable feedback about your needs in a relationship?
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Andrea felt like she was talkng to a brick wall. Joe was looking at her π while she was talking about how she was feeling but it was like he had a blank stare. He just was not understanding her... at all. She got more upset π ... her voice got louder... and her tears π’ started streaming down her face. Her feelings were terribly hurt.
Why does he not see π that my feelings are hurt?
Why can he not be more supportive and see what I need when I am upset?
Why does he get frustrated π or avoid me when I am crying?
Am I wrong to be upset? For my feelings to be hurt?
Those were some of the questions she asked me when she hired me to help her make her marriage better and help her communicate and connect with her husband.
Every couple has moments when communication and connection fail. But Andrea was starting to have these issues more frequently... and it was making her anxious, nervous, and a bit depressed. Until she took The 5 Relationship Languages Quiz and had her 1st coaching session with me.
It was not long into our 1st coaching session when she realized she and her husband spoke different 'Relationship Languages' and that he was not intentionally hurting her feelings or not providing the emotional support she needed. I worked with her to help her connect with Joe in a different way... one that would draw him closer to her... just by using the 5 Relationship Languages and honoring her language.
The result was magical π . "Dr. Dar, It is incredible how I started connecting π with Joe after just one session with you. It's like he is a different man. I know he isn't but how he is responding to me now is so different from last week... or just yesterday. What you taught me was so easy π― . I was able to explain how I felt and was heard and understood just by shifting my mindset and energy. Thank you so much. I cannot imagine not talking with you on a regular basis."
That moment when Andrea realized she and her husband spoke different relationship languages was that magical moment when a light bulb switched on π ... she was hopeful and optimistic again.
#drdar #relationshipfixer #howtosayit #relationshipsmatter #saveyourmarriage
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Andrea felt like she was talkng to a brick wall. Joe was looking at her π while she was talking about how she was feeling but it was like he had a blank stare. He just was not understanding her... at all. She got more upset π ... her voice got louder... and her tears π’ started streaming down her face. Her feelings were terribly hurt.
Why does he not see π that my feelings are hurt?
Why can he not be more supportive and see what I need when I am upset?
Why does he get frustrated π or avoid me when I am crying?
Am I wrong to be upset? For my feelings to be hurt?
Those were some of the questions she asked me when she hired me to help her make her marriage better and help her communicate and connect with her husband.
Every couple has moments when communication and connection fail. But Andrea was starting to have these issues more frequently... and it was making her anxious, nervous, and a bit depressed. Until she took The 5 Relationship Languages Quiz and had her 1st coaching session with me.
It was not long into our 1st coaching session when she realized she and her husband spoke different 'Relationship Languages' and that he was not intentionally hurting her feelings or not providing the emotional support she needed. I worked with her to help her connect with Joe in a different way... one that would draw him closer to her... just by using the 5 Relationship Languages and honoring her language.
The result was magical π . "Dr. Dar, It is incredible how I started connecting π with Joe after just one session with you. It's like he is a different man. I know he isn't but how he is responding to me now is so different from last week... or just yesterday. What you taught me was so easy π― . I was able to explain how I felt and was heard and understood just by shifting my mindset and energy. Thank you so much. I cannot imagine not talking with you on a regular basis."
That moment when Andrea realized she and her husband spoke different relationship languages was that magical moment when a light bulb switched on π ... she was hopeful and optimistic again.
#drdar #relationshipfixer #howtosayit #relationshipsmatter #saveyourmarriage
If you find yourself dealing with perfectionism, please know it is not your fault. It is due to years, and years, and years of training by the adults and systems around you. For example: when I was in piano class as a young girl, the teacher would tell me 'practice makes perfect' once a week. At gymnastics class, my gym teacher would say "practict makes perfect", when I took tennis lessons... guess what.. yep... I was told " practice makes perfect"/ Parents around me echoed that same message. And it was not just in art, music, or fitness classes.... it was in math and science class too. And then... when I started working, I'd hear coworkers and managers use the same term. It's like we hear things and then repeat them without thinking them through from the perspective of impact to the emotional and mental wellbeing of the person receiving the message.
Here's what I say... to people who say Practice Makes Perfect and still stand by that phrase. You keep up the appearances of perfection. And, stop expecting others to practice to the point of perfection.
I am getting off the practice makes perfect bus and onto the joyful doing what I love and having fun while doing it bus... because it is in that space of joyful doing that practice naturally happens and it has nothing to do with perfectionism. And everything to do with being thrilled... surprised even with the result.
The Joyful Doing Bus is stopping by to see you! Who is jumping on with me?
#drdar #relationshipfixer #relationshipsmatter #saveyourmarriage #lovemindset
I'm trying out something new π ... and I'm calling it The Mood-Energy Forecast. It won't be a daily thing... just when I am sensing/tuning-in to what I/my audience may feel more intensely on certain days each week or month.
Here's my 1st one... let me know if this is something you'd like, benefit from, and would share with others.
Alert for Today and tomorrow....
Who: This is for my sensitives, empaths, givers, people pleasers, caregiving, helper types.
What: You may feel the need, desire, or urge to say πΆ I'm sorry more often than usual.
Action: Say nothing. β Notice the sensation arise, and pause π
. Allow the feeling, desire, urge to calm itself until you are grounded π . Learn to sit in the need or urget to say I'm sorry instead of rushing to say it in a reactionary mode... just pause... wait... deep breathe π¨ ... and you will see that urge pass. Be patient... no matter what others are doing or saying. π
#drdar #emotional #astromood #energyforecast
Drop a comment or pm to let me know if this is helpful... or not.
If you're on your 2nd, 3rd, or ... marriage... what are you doing to π ensure you have a βοΈ healthy, happy, long lasting relationship? #ThisIsUs #drdar #relationshipfixer #saveyourmarriage
I'm trying out something new π ... and I'm calling it The Mood-Energy Forecast. It won't be a daily thing... just when I am sensing/tuning-in to what I/my audience may feel more intensely on certain days each week or month.
Here's my 1st one... let me know if this is something you'd like, benefit from, and would share with others.
Alert for Today and tomorrow....
Who: This is for my sensitives, empaths, givers, people pleasers, caregiving, helper types.
What: You may feel the need, desire, or urge to say πΆ I'm sorry more often than usual.
Action: Say nothing. β Notice the sensation arise, and pause π
. Allow the feeling, desire, urge to calm itself until you are grounded π . Learn to sit in the need or urget to say I'm sorry instead of rushing to say it in a reactionary mode... just pause... wait... deep breathe π¨ ... and you will see that urge pass. Be patient... no matter what others are doing or saying. π
#drdar #emotional #astromood #energyforecast
Drop a comment or pm to let me know if this is helpful... or not.
