Why The Five Relationship Superpowers Matter

To Have Remarkable Relationships
(and what to do for the ones that aren’t)

As Emotional, Sensitive, Intuitive and Smart Women, we feel coerced into being and living in an emotionally numbing way layered with shame, guilt, and self-blame so that we can coexist with others.  It’s like we have no choice but to give in or give up.

You are so sensitive!

Stop being so defensive!

You are too emotional!

Why do you always have to make things so hard?

You are unworthy. You are to blame. You are the problem.

These are not Relationship Superpowers!

These are accusations that propelled us to change who we are so that we can be loved.  We did everything we could to coexist in our relationships, as harmoniously as possible.  Until one day, we could not muster up the strength or courage to do it anymore.

Staying in these relationships, with our hearts closed and relying on our critical left brain, like we and others were trained to do, caused us to question ourselves, our worth, and our ways of being, while we stuffed our feelings as far down our gullets as we could.

We trained ourselves

To be silent, not question anyone, be overpowered, and suffer in silence. We then carried this forward into other relationships in our personal and professional lives.  We continued to feel unworthy, unappreciated, undervalued, unaccepted, unheard, and unloved. This has been costly to our health, wealth, and peace-of-mind.  The stress and weight on our minds, bodies, and hearts that built layer after layer over time has a breaking point.

Figuring out how to be ourselves, fully, as an introvert, empath, sensitive, intuitive, or emotional being, while simultaneously trying to communicate and connect with people who just don’t get us or don’t want to, in an extroverted world, is challenging.  And exhausting.  Relationship Superpower Coach

Knowing your Relationship Superpowers

And how to use it will give you the will, strength, and courage to be yourself, understand yourself so that others understand you, and have conversations, be heard, and create desired results.  You can create remarkable relationships and lives by using and understanding these five superpowers.

I am here to guide you. 

Hi, I am Dr. Dar, Your Relationship Superpower and Life Coach. I help emotional, sensitive, empathic, introvert, intuitive and smart women leverage their relationship superpowers to make sense of their past relationships and create remarkable relationships going forward. 

The Five Relationship Superpowers

There are 5 Relationship Superpowers that can create joy, understanding, connection, and love. They also can create conflict, tension, and discord.  Relationship Coach uses Choice Theo

Take the quiz to learn which of the five superpowers is your relationship superpower.

Love & Belonging

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Freedom

 

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Fun

 

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Power

 

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Survival

 

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The Relationship Superpower Programs

Click the option that resonates with you the most right now.

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It seems my heart is made of tissue paper;

I wish the world would handle it more delicately.

― Richelle E. Goodrich

Examples of how I can help as your Relationship Superpower and Life Coach:

    I want to have a loving relationship, but I am scared of being hurt again, attracting the same painful experiences, and struggling with dating. I don’t want to give up but dating and loving again is hard. 

    I’m stressed out, overwhelmed and feel disconnected from my partner. Can I save my relationship and have my own needs met?

    I have a strained relationship with my parents.  It is impacting my ability to believe in myself.  I want to change it but I don’t know how to make things better between us. Can you help me?

    I have a hard time saying no to my manager so I end up doing more than my coworkers and not get appreciated for it. How do I stop being an enabler in my life and starting living my own life?

    Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive.  They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody.  But it is at great cost.  Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either.

    – Osho

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    Testimonials

    I honor the privacy, confidentiality, and safety of my clients; therefore, their names and photos are disguised to protect their identify.

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    Wise, Truthful, Fair

    Darshana Hawks is a friend as well as an advisor. She’s the kind of friend that you need to have to be able to see yourself clearly, that other friends may not feel comfortable doing. Her gift of spiritual Truths come freely out of her during a conversation as if she’s been working and living these Truths most of her life. She embodies everything a Coach should be, in my opinion. Wise, truthful, sincere, loyal, fair, Honest, and most of all, Wise. What we look for in going to someone else for help in whatever areas we are working towards in our lives is someone who knows more than we do, that can already see the bigger picture. And Darshana is wise beyond her years, a true friend and coach that I am only too honored to have found.  – Laurel L.
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    It Worked!

    I tried Dr. Dar’s methods to find my soul mate and IT WORKED!  I categorically eliminated anyone who showed interest in me if they did not have a photo. Suddenly I got an email from a man who intrigued me, but no photo.  Remembering Darshana’s story of how she met her husband online, I took a deep breath and gave it a shot. We emailed a bit, spoke a bit and agreed to meet for lunch. When I met Mr. Wonderful he was not drop dead gorgeous but he was so “wonderful” that I was able to leave my superficiality at the door and begin to get to know the real man.  I am happy to report that it’s been a month and we’re still going strong. He’s definitely a keeper and I’m glad I followed Darshana’s advice.  – Sally C.
    The Relationship Superpower Coach

    Singles Coaching Gave Me Insights

    Singles Coaching has given me insights that I can’t easily see for myself. I am already on a spiritual conscious path, yet when we are in it, it’s hard to see clearly. She is the eyes that have helped me to see those parts of me that need the love and forgiveness and insight that I lack. Relationships help you see those things about yourself, but when you aren’t in a committed relationship, it is hard to do the work you need or would like to do. Darshana is that and more.  – Rob P.
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    Break Bad Dating Habits

    Know Thyself – it’s a rule that I try to live by, but sometimes, you need help to understand yourself and how you tick.  The in-depth exercises in Dr. Dar’s course are extremely helpful. They are thought-provoking, and really give you the opportunity to do the work necessary to break bad dating habits and patterns.  This, of course, is necessary in order to move to the next level. Thanks to the `course, I can honestly say, I know myself better and feel confident that with the coaching I’ve received,  and I am on the right track to meeting the love of my life.  – Anna J.
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    This Is Real

    Wow!  Thank you so much for your work with me on Wednesday. I knew that there were some shifts going on with me while we were talking. When I woke early Thursday morning my words to myself were “this is real” and I knew that we had done the work I needed to do.  For your gift I thank you. I realize that within me there is more work to be done regarding my divorce, however, I feel much stronger and ready to lean into the healing that awaits.  – David L. (Interfaith Minister)

    Resolve Differences

    Darshana helped us find the good in each other. Both of us had felt that in our business experiences we had developed good listening skills. Unfortunately, the dynamics trying to practice those listening skills in a personal and emotional marriage left both of us with little trust and respect to truly listen and in turn to be heard. One of the most spectacular tools I brought away from Dr. Dar is the ability to see, forecast and watch myself slipping into a state of trying desperately to be heard while not listening at all. Darshana taught us to use a disciplined process for resolving differences. – Art L. (Engineer)
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    In Love Again

    I was moving out the weekend that my husband found Darshana to help us make a final effort to save our marriage. I felt the energy shift during our first session, and within weeks the new and wonderful changes started manifesting in our lives personally and in our relationship.  It feels as though a big stumbling block has been removed: a stumbling block that almost led us to separate. We are communicating better, we’re kinder to each other, and we enjoy being together again. We both treat each other respectfully … not because we “should”, but because we want to. Darshana assisted us in taking what feels like giant steps in our personal growth, which of course is reflected in our marriage.  We feel in love again. Darshana has been a blessing to our marriage. – Karen R. (Therapist)
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    I feel secure again

    With Darshana, I feel hopeful about my future and my relationship with my future partner. I also feel secure in knowing I have practical tools to use to continue to transform dating to find love and the thriving partnership I truly want with all my heart.  – Karen L. (Entrepreneur)
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    How to say it

    Sometimes all you need is someone to mention the obvious. Darshana does that and more. In a very short time, she has become a friend and big sister. I was scared to bring up a topic to my husband, thinking he would not be on the same page as I was. Darshana helped me realize that he could be – but there was no way to tell unless I asked. She coached me through the conversation and how to go about it – and today – I know that we do want the same things – all it took was a conversation. Thanks, Darshana! – Gretchen P. NC
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    Our marriage is saved

    Darshana helped us find the good in each other. The controlled climate of acceptance instead of tolerance and listening that Darshana helped us create allowed each of us to lay out our feelings and our needs without interruption. Darshana taught us to resolve our differences. We learned to stop attacking each other, accept each other, listen openly, and hear each other.  Our marriage is saved thanks to Darshana’s help. – Frank O. (Professional Coach)
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    No Agenda

    During our search for help with the problems we were having in our marriage, Darshana was the most effective, insightful, and inspirational “counselor” I ever experienced.  I was relieved that she had no agenda; she was dedicated only to help us find what was best for ourselves. She listened and helped us listen to each other and to our own hearts. When she spoke, she expressed her ideas kindly as options for us to consider, and at the same time she clearly pointed out to each of us the things we were avoiding.  She helped and guided us to be with our relationship and ourselves in a new way, aiding us to let the old way be a lesson of our past.  – Geoffrey R. (Teacher)
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    Cleaner Communication

    Since I was experiencing my current, 20 year relationship as less than wonderful, I hired Darshana to coach me and then to coach both my husband and me. Darshana’s work with us covered soup to nuts – meaning from grocery shopping to finances to dissecting a simple communication interchange to sex.  She accomplished in 2 days what 20 years of therapy did not.  After our work with Darshana, I began to notice that my communication with others was cleaner, more precise and I am learning to be clear about when agreements are made and what they really are and to be aware when they are left incomplete and what the results are. – Lorraine L. (Executive and Business Coach)
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    I Would Refer Her

    I have and would refer Darshana to others because of her commitment to her clients and the work that she does with purpose and clean intention. She produces in hours what it would take others months – even years. I have worked with many coaches and counselors and Darshana stands out because of her ability to listen behind the words and to ask the very laser-like questions that get to the heart of the matter in ways that allow the client to discover underlying patterns that have held them stuck for years. My daughter was in an abusive relationship and Darshana accomplished in 4 hours what a psychologist could not in 10 months! What is important to me isn’t so much the speed but the soundness and clarity of the coaching.   ~ Lorraine L. (Business Coach)
    What\'s Your Relationship Superpower?   Take the quiz to find out how to have remarkable relationships and what to do when they are not.