When a woman gets angry…
The Fury of An Angry Woman
It is not an …all of a sudden thing…
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It started a long time ago with one tiny moment in time…
When she was dishonored, disrespected, belittled, criticized, traumatized, unheard, dismissed, or even abused…
That moment seeded in her emotional, mental, and spiritual body.
The next time she was dishonored, the seed got a smidge larger.
And the next time… and the time after that…
And again… and again.
Until one day…
Something else happens.
And the emotional wave explodes.
Anger spews from her mouth and body… outwards…
Like a volcano erupting with hot flames and ash.
And… asking her what’s wrong, or what you did, or why she is angry…
Brings taller flames and the ash spews harder, louder, faster, and farther.
Her blood starts as a warm cozy bubble from her feet.
Slowly those bubbles work their way up into her belly, simmering until it gets to a slow boil.
Suddenly, that boil spills over. And an explosion ensues. The explosion is directed at whoever is present.
It’s not personal, it is hot energy that has to be released… like that volcano, heating up till it explodes.
We think it was that latest dishonoring event or relationship that the anger is about.
But, it is not.
It is simpler than that.
It is about being dishonored and disrespected.
It is about not being and taking a stand for our values.
It is about not honoring our requirements.
It is about tolerating unacceptable behaviors.
It is about taking in ‘constructive criticism’ that is not constructive at all.
It is about sweeping things under the rug… because we don’t want to face it.
Or… we are fearful of the unknown, the uncertainty of taking a solid stand.
Until the day…
She has had enough.
She is done.
She walks away, head held high.
And… this is the best thing you can do when faced with the fury of an angry woman
- Honor her
- Respect her
- Understand her
- Give her time and space
- Leave her be, after letting her know you care and are giving her space
- And if she is done, walk away after letting her know she can call you once she processes what’s going on.
And, if you are a woman with fury and anger, I invite you to:
- Take time for yourself, in silence.
- Connect with the time when your volcano got seeded.
- Understand what happened at that time, logically and factually.
- Look at any blame you are placing on anyone, including yourself.
- Review it more holistically – in everyone’s perspective, including your own. What it was like for them… what it was like for you.
- Take a stand for what you require now going forward in your relationships and environments.
- Reconnect with your feel-good vibe.
- Thank the experience in that initial moment for the learning and release it. It no longer serves your highest good.
You are not a bad girl for being angry. You have every right to have your emotions.
Your anger is a gift, the first time you sense in the slow simmer of your blood.
Heed it. Be with it. Listen for the wisdom it is bringing to your awareness.
You no longer have to ignore it, shove it down into the core of your being, or not honor it.
You are invited to be kind and take a time out for yourself when anger shows up.
Then allow yourself the gift of inner and outer peace by honoring and respecting yourself and your anger.
From my heart to yours,
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