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Take the Relationship Personalities Quiz to Reveal Your Relationship Personality, Communication Style, and How to Fix Any Life, Work, or Relationship Problem

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My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with
some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.
~ Maya Angelou

ife isn’t easy…we all know that.


Do you ever feel that kind of lost in your life, not sure what to do about the chaos around you, feeling burned out and stuck in an anxious, not knowing what to do next – like a deer in the headlights? Relationship Personality

Like you’re not able to support the people around you, feeling like you’re not making a difference, and not being able to protect your loved ones, much less yourself. 

You feel like you’re not moving forward in your life and relationships the way you want?lity

And probably tired of procrastinating in your life and calling in relationships or jobs that pull you down rather than lift you up? Relationship Personality

Or sometimes so caught up in your past that you forget to live in the moment.

Yes, so much goes on in life and you really want to slow down, regroup and find your focus.  But you have too many people depending on you… family, work, friends… and you feel like you just don’t have any time or energy to add one more thing to your plate.P

When you do slow down, it’s far easier to make yourself “significant” to the people around you while making a huge difference for them, and feel more fulfilled in your life. Relationship Personality 

What’s a Relationship Personality?

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The Relationship Personality quiz provides you with a practical set of tools to help you understand yourself and the people you interact with… your and their moods, thoughts, reactions, feelings, and choices. It also gives you a framework on how to make choices to help determine whether an option is right for you or not. 

Your Relationship Personality unlocks your control over your own feelings, actions, and behaviors.  It unlocks access to choosing your behavior so that you make the best choices in your life going forward.

My relationship personality framework is based on the work of Dr. William Glasser and rational choice theory.

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Choice Theory® [I call it Relationship Personality] is the universal system for empowering individuals and improving relationships. Choice Theory’s®  foundational premise is that you only have the power to control yourself and have limited power to control others. Conflict in your life arises because you can only control your own behavior and not the behavior of others or the relationship personalities involved are out of balance or alignment. Choice theory states that all human behavior is driven by the desire to satisfy five basic human needs:


  • the need to be loved and accepted,
  • the need to be powerful,
  • the need to be free,
  • the need to have fun and
  • the need to survive.

These 5 needs, or relationship personalities, have their own communication, emotional, reaction, choosing, thinking, feeling and acting styles.  Understanding and applying the relationship personality framework in your life will free you from stress, worry, anxiety, toxicity, drama, and trauma in many ways.

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Applying your Relationship Personality into all areas of your life puts you in control, shows you where to take responsibility for your own life, and at the same time, withdraw from attempting to direct other people’s decisions and lives, and no longer be controlled by other people’s decisions and lives.

You will have a simple and practical framework that empowers you to make the best choices and support others in taking ownership of their choices. Any negativity, toxicity, conflict, or negative behaviors can be reduced in frequency and intensity… and even disappear, your relationships strengthen and your satisfaction in life increases.

Learn how to refocus in a healthy way, share your challenges and victories, flourish and steer your life ship

People are much better served when they realize their thoughts, 
not their circumstances, create their emotions.

What would it feel like if you:

  • Broke the cycle of diving into bad habits of fear, being overwhelmed, and jumping between living in the past and the unnamed future?
  • Think more realistically…and talk back to your negative thoughts…to live a much happier life.

When you look around and peel beneath the layers, you will slowly but surely start to see how your thoughts and actions will help you move forward to feel good in your life.

You’ll feel part of you that is shifting…change is underway.

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Feel Big From the Inside

When you know your relationship personality,
you see your strengths (your Superpowers) clearly and recognize when
weaknesses (your Kryptonite) are trying to grip you.
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You will:

  • Accept who you are and adjust your life around that.
  • Know how to be of service and value to others… who appreciate all that you do for them.
  • Turn moments of chaos, stress, or a trigger into a moment of peace.
  • Know what to do to resolve any relationship issue.
  • Learn how to make choices that are aligned with your relationship personality.
  • And make your life happen for you rather than to you!

When you look at this world around you, there are animals, trees, sky, other people, and then of course, there’s you. People pleasers want to feel good

But do you know what sets you apart
from all them?


The Relationship Personality Quiz helped me check in with my intuition. Sometimes I would get a very strong feeling to avoid something, but it was hard to know if it was fear-based or intuition-based.


My Relationship Personality helped me check in to find the answer: Is my response determined by a My Relationship Personality or Kryptonite?  I also understand people better in my personal and professional interactions.


If I know which relationship personality influences them in a situation, I can address or alleviate any concerns. The result is that I can more easily and joyfully find agreement in any situation.


~ Sarah Murphy

Your Feel Good Relationship Personality is
Your Own Magic Formula! 

It’s your energy that motivates and inspires the people around you… Relationship Personality

It’s your ability to make decisions and perform actions based on knowing what makes you feel good.  It’s your energy that contributes to your feeling good about yourself and the ways you can support the people in your life, work, and relationships. Relationship Personality

It’s like starting with a blank canvas and knowing there are so many possibilities that are coming your way. Relationship Personality

Working with your Relationship Personality means you’ll generate good feelings all around you and the more your subconscious mind takes notice, the more your subconscious makes YOU act in your best interest. When you’re in flow with your Feel-Good Relationship Superpower you know how to manage your energy so that you have more energy to give and be your best… plus feel great about yourself, your life, and your relationships. Relationship Personality

Your Feel Good Relationship Personality:


  • Keeps you from feeling hopeless, a slave to what people think, so you move in flow
  • Is a feel-good boost when you are an emotional mess – you are your own pick-me-up
  • Helps you achieve a greater understanding of your self-awareness, self-worth, and empath-ability
  • Is your path to open up to manifesting and receiving what you want in your life
  • Is a framework for attaining better communication, listening and connecting in any relationship or situation
  • Helps you feel good every glorious day! 

Go ahead…

Take the quiz and embrace your relationship personality

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