Why the divorce rate is greater than 50%



Dr. Dar

When surveyed, adults between the ages of 29 and 55  said they would turn to family for guidance to help with their relationship problems.

  1. 55% said family
  2. 24% said friend
  3. 17% said their Spiritual Leader
  4. 4% said their therapist

And roughly 14% of therapists are trained to work with couples, the majority are trained to work with individuals illustrating why therapy fails to solve relationship issues.

I say your family and your friends don’t know anything.  Why can I say that?  Because they learned the same way you did.  They did not get professional training on how to be successful in marriage and love.  And what worked for them does not mean the same thinking will work for you.  The reason we go to our friends and family is because we wrongly feel that they made it through a similar experience and therefore they can advise us accordingly.  Likewise, Spiritual Leaders are not succeeding because the divorce rate has consistently remained at or above 50%.

Why then would you do everything you can to learn how to have and be successful in a relationship?  Why would you not arm yourself with data to cause success?  Why would you not work with someone who is trained and licensed to teach you life changing relationship skills? 

Society will continue to produce relationship problems and divorce until we make different choices.  Because we look to history to learn, to our family and friends and their history, we preordain our futures to follow a similar path because we implant the previous solution to our present situation.  

Albert Einstein said “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”  He also said ”  Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new” and “Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius — and a lot of courage — to move in the opposite direction.”  I agree with him, do something different this time.  Choose success by not following history and doing something out of the ordinary.  Do something that will guarantee your success.

Take an action that is unique from your experience or that of your family and friends. 
Talk to someone who is unbiased, who does not know you, who holds anything you discuss with utmost confidentiality, and who knows unique and extraordinary ways to cause your success, who is professionally trained to deal with your situation, and with whom you feel completely comfortable and trusting, knowing that your heart and soul is safe with them always, who will give you techniques to practice in real life and who will hold you accountable for your success.

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